Archive for August, 2010

Answers, please.

Monday, August 16th, 2010

1. How much stuff is the right amount of stuff? I read something in the Times last week that made reference to a movement to own only 100 things. I can see the appeal of having an orderly and austere material life. I look at small and tidy houses and think, Lovely. But then – what about art supplies, and musical instruments? And, God help us, books? I really like having the right art materials to start, at least, almost any spur-of-the-moment idea that comes along…

2. What’s with the guilt? So I blog once a month. So I’ve abandoned several sewing projects half-finished, and am now on a knitting tear. So I’m making extremely intermittent progress in my self-paced study to become a La Leche League leader. Why feel guilty about all these things? Nobody is being harmed. Why can’t I just blog or sew or read about breastfeeding when I feel like it and have time, or else, not?

3. I love my son so very much. He’s a wonderful kid. Why do I spend so much of evey day yelling at him? Well, only rarely yelling, but a lot of that sharp unfriendly parent voice. Is there something i can change in myself – given all the constraints of the rest of life – that would help our day to day relationship have more of the texture and tone of my real feelings about him?

Please submit your responses below.